Caregiver story - Jamie
“It’s just a part of me.” That’s how Jamie Downes of Taumarunui (Te Ātihaunui-a-Papārangi, Ngāti Tūwharetoa) describes being a caregiver.
Seeing Jamie in the context of his wider whānau, it’s no surprise that caregiving came naturally to him.
Jamie – video transcript
Jamie: Kia ora my name is Jamie Downes. I’m from Taumaranui, Te Ātihaunui-a Papārangi Ngāti Tūwharetoa. I became a caregiver because I saw my grandparents caring for people and then I saw my mum and dad caring for people.
So because we owned a dairy, at a young age I was able to see that there was a lot of need in the community to support these young people. They were out there getting up to mischief. That was when officially I started to be a carer, of bringing rangatahi in off the street and teaching them the things that weren’t learning at home.
The struggles and challenges that I see is first a lack of identity. “You’re useless, you’re dumb, you’ll never amount to anything. You’re a Māori, you’re gonna be on the dole. You’re gonna be a gang member.” They think that that’s their future because that’s all they’ve seen.
I’d say we need to be more understanding of Māori. We need to be understanding of the trauma in which they’ve come from. I think the wider community could help our rangatahi by being more culturally connected, culturally sensitive. If we can have somewhat of this connection, of actually coming and accepting each other, both as Māori, Pakeha and mulitcultural, we could actually see that we actually all have something to offer. From there it’ll be going and saying, “You are hope. You are amazing. You do have gifts and talents.”
So, in the end we call it aroha, and it’s called manaakitanga. It’s going and saying, “come on be part of us.”
End of transcript.
Generations of caregiving
Jamie comes from a loving family that gives back generously to its people and community. He grew up seeing his grandparents and parents being caregivers to tamariki and rangatahi.
A similar goodwill and big heart for others was visible in Jamie from an early age.
“I’ve been caring for rangatahi officially and unofficially for about 20 years. I think at the age of 13, I was bringing rangatahi in need home, into our whare.”
As well as being caregivers, Jamie’s parents also owned and operated a local dairy.
While working behind the counter, the young Jamie realised his bigger purpose – helping the rangatahi who were “misunderstood and hanging out on the streets, getting up to mischief.”
“We ended up having nine to eleven staying in our three bedroom whare behind and above the dairy at one time. We’d give them a kai, teach them the basics like personal hygiene and also support their families as well.”
A holistic approach
Jamie became an official caregiver in 2016. He’s now using his years of rich experience to develop the Breakthrough Community Trust, an organisation that uses matauranga Māori and whanaungatanga-based programmes to support tamariki, and whānau.
For Jamie, the root cause of many problems and challenges that young people face lie in a loss of identity. That’s why the Trust’s focus for change starts with tamariki and parents.
“You can’t help young people without supporting their whānau. Most of the children we support want to be like their parents.
They are their heroes, but they weren’t helped; enhancing their mana creates a ripple effect that will echo across multiple generations.
The Trust supports many of the young people it works with to recognise that they can shape their own future – negatively or positively. Visualising their past as a strength, as a stepping stone out of a hole and into a place where identity and belonging can be enhanced through cultural connections and whakapapa.
The Trust’s approach is having results for the whole whānau, it’s even helping koro and kuia to better connect, communicate and understand their mokopuna, says Jamie.
What the wider community can do
While Jamie doesn’t see any short-term fixes for the care system, partly due to intergenerational needs being left unmet, he does see an important role for the wider community in supporting rangatahi in care.
He believes the wider community can help our rangatahi by being open minded and culturally connected, especially as the majority of children in care are Māori.
Published: August 1, 2018 · Updated: November 3, 2021